BUILDING A GOOD MARITAL RELATIONSHIP

Your level of preparedness for anything affects the dimension of your performance, if you are not intentionally prepared for marriage, you as a single or already married might endure the institution of marriage rather than enjoy it.

So much has been said and written about marriage—much of it rather complicated or seemingly contradictory, however the fact remains that God established marriage to be a success and some of the things that makes it a success has been revealed by him through his word.

A good marriage is not justified by how handsome or beautiful the husband/wife is, neither is it measured by the degree of money at their reach.

A good marriage is made up of . . . two people who take ownership for the good as well as the bad. They are a responsible couple.

A good marriage is made up of . . . two people believing good wins over bad. They are a hopeful couple.

A good marriage is made up of . . . two people walking in each other's shoes. They are an empathic couple.

A good marriage is made up of . . . two people healing the hurts they don't deserve. They are a forgiving couple.

A good marriage is made up of . . . two people living the love they promise. They are a committed couple.

Marriage wasn't meant to be so complicated or difficult that only a few could do it successfully. It's within the reach of nearly everyone. It's also what will make most people happy and their lives most meaningful, productive, and satisfying, because it's a basic part of God's plan for mankind.

Everything good has their origin in God the creator of all because he first saw what was good from the beginning. Hence, the blueprint for a successful and good marriage is rooted in his word. Below are some insights from the word of the Lord towards building a good marital destiny.

Putting God First Principle: It's a spiritual law that when you put your time with God first, both alone and with your husband or wife, everything else falls into place. "Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these [other] things shall be added to you" (Matthew 6:33). Your marriage will only succeed and be good mainly if you allow God to be the first in all you do and in your life, this is because he instituted it and is the only one that knows the best route to take for it to succeed.

Unselfishness. Selfishness is at the root of most marriage problems. For a marriage to work, both partners need to put the happiness of the other before their own. That's real love—the kind that lasts. Be open minded to one another in all things and this create an environment for love to grow without obstacle.

Willingness to recognize and work on problems: Most of the problems that sink marriages start small but grow out of hand because the couple fails to deal with the problems soon enough. Often they tell themselves that the problem will go away if they ignore it or when circumstances change, but that passive approach seldom works. Those with the strongest marriages are those who learn to face their problems head-on and take active steps to overcome them together.

Good communication: In order to understand and meet each other's needs, as well as to unite to overcome problems, good communication is a must. Good communication in marriage does not hide, distort, or evade the truth from the other. But honest communication doesn’t necessitate cruelty just for the sake of honesty. Respectful honesty is the key phrase.

Forgiveness: A readiness to forgive is a key to a solid, secure marriage. Be quick to apologize for any hurtful words or actions you may have directed at your wife or husband, ability to forgive builds peace at home and ehances love. until you develop the attitude of prompt forgiveness, you might be digging a pit of destruction for your relationship.

Understand that the humand side of man can always eer and make mistake, then we need to have a mind readily prepared to forgive ahead of offences so that they dont torment our homes.

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I SHALL NOT GO EMPTY

1. Thou power assigned to make me miss the good benefits remaining in this year, scatter in Jesus name.


2. I command every divine promise that is yet to be fulfilled in my life this year to speedily come to manifestation in Jesus name.

3. Holy Spirit command every fountain of joy that has been closed in my life to be opened in Jesus name

4. I refuse to go out of this year empty handed, father give me a visitation that will fill my barn with abundance in Jesus name.

5. O Lord by your mighty force of favour give me an end of the year celebrative miracle in Jesus name.

6. Everything that worked against me this year, I withdraw your power upon my life, you shall begin to work to my favour as I step into 2010 in Jesus name.

7. As this year goes to an end, my life is secured, my business is secured, my home is secured, no evil shall befall me in Jesus name.

Knowledge they say is power, the degree of knowledge you possess affects the kind of life you live and eventually reflects in your relationship. Come and discover the secret to happy and lasting marital relationship as Taire Stephen a relationship consultant and Best selling author Uneveils How to Build and Sustain Healthy Relationship. This is an all LADIES  affairs, just for ladies only. Experience the uncommon speaking style of Favour Samuel the president of Daugthers of Destiny, as she speaks on Positioning Yourself as a lady for the right man. 

Pray your way to fulfilment , attend this Mega Summit,  Saturday 24th October 2009, at Sweet Sensation Hall, Alagomeji Yaba. Lagos. 11:00 am - 3:00pm.

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Beckley Olusegun
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WHAT IS THE VALUE OF LOVE?

Each of us is guided by some force in our life. We all have something that we desire, something that motivates us and drives us. And typically it is this driving force that explains why we do the things we do and say the things we say.

For those who are Christians, the overriding guiding force in life is love. Being a Christian is much more about doing good things than it is about avoiding bad things. It is about embracing life with an attitude of love and hope towards God and towards each other.

No matter what our profession is, whether a teacher, a home-maker, a lawyer or a laborer, what matters is the spirit of love that we express towards each other in all that we do. No matter what our duties or responsibilities are in our workplace, our home or elsewhere, our first duty and our first responsibility is to act out of love.

In a book entitled “Wounded by Love”, Elder Porphyrios, a Monk from Mt. Athos, illustrates this point. He tells a story of a Hermit, who had two monks under his guidance, and while he did his best to teach them, he was unsure of their spiritual growth. And he looked for some sign from God about this, but he received no answer. One day there was to be a vigil service in a church that was many hours away from where they were. And they would have to walk across the desert to get there.

The Hermit sent the two monks off early in the morning so that they could help prepare the church, and he planned to follow later in the afternoon. So the monks went on their way and as traveled they came upon a place where they heard a groaning noise. There they found a man badly hurt, crying out for help. The two monks came to him and told him that they could not help him because they were in a hurry to get to the church to help prepare it for the service that was to take place. They said that they must be obedient to what they were told to do, and so they left him. Some time later that afternoon, the hermit began his journey to the church and on his way he too came upon this man.

The hermit asked him how long he had been lying there and did he not see anyone come by that could help him? The man replied that two monks had passed by but said that they were in a hurry and could not help. The hermit said to him, do not worry, I will carry you to the village. But the injured man said how can you do this, you are old and you will not be able to lift me. The hermit replied, do not worry, I will manage, even if it takes me two days. With great difficulty, the hermit put the man upon his back and began walking in the sand.

As he walked sweat was pouring from him and he thought to himself that it may take three days to get to the village, but he was determined. However, as he continued on his way, he began to feel his burden getting lighter and lighter until he felt that he was carrying nothing at all. When he turned around to see what was happening, he was astonished to find an angel upon his back. And the angel said to him, God sent me to inform you that your two monks are not worthy of the kingdom of God, because they do not have love.

What the monks didn’t understand was that while it is important and it is good to be obedient, the greatest obedience should be to love. Our responsibility to love overrides all other responsibilities that we may have in this life.

God has given us free will to determine for ourselves how we will live our lives. From time to time, we might ask ourselves how much value we place on love and how much we allow it to be the guiding force in our own lives

4 KEYS TO DEVELOP LASTING LOVE

Love is the basis for an healthy relationship. Without real love in a relationship, it will be filled with strife, unrest, chaos, and disagreement. It is noteworthy to build love in every relationship, it is one thing to love, it is another to develop it. Love is like a fire that must be kept burning, it hence needs oil to keep it burning.
Key 1- CONCERN
As partners you need to be sincerly concerned about one another, have a concern for your partner in all that concerns him or her. It develops love.
KEY 2- COMMUNICATION.
Communication is a vital key to growing love in a relationship. As partners you must communicate regularly, this boosts love. Share minds, wounds, feelings, hurts, joy etc. Let there be openess between you both.
KEY 3- CARE
Everyone likes to be taken care of, your partner needs your care to confide in your love. Care is a love booster.
KEY 4- SINCERITY
Love is an invisible force that operates in truth. Love in a relationship grows in the dimension of truth that exists in a relationship and your trust cannot be complete if you are not both sincere. You need sincerity as partners to grow your love.

Love is divine, hence it should not be misused and misapplied. Let love grow on the wings of sincerity and purpose.

Dont be deceived that sex is a major love booster, if it does, homes ought not to be broken as it does. Let your love grow via these keys.